We are so programmed to look for what is wrong in our lives, our children, our parents, our career, etc.
To even consider that what we have is just fine, seems as if one is settling. Settling for what? What is the difference between settling, denial and seeing what is: what is beautiful in our families, our lives, our world while acknowledging what may be missing or not.
When we settle, we say “that is just the way it is.”
When we are in denial we say “everything is fine, there is nothing to worry about, everything is perfect.”
When we see what is, we see the beauty and the ugliness of life and the beauty overrides the “ugliness”.
We see our parents as humans with human frailties and yet no judgment, simply loving acceptance.
We see our spouse’s flaws and smile because that is just who they are while we also see their strengths and great love for us. And we focus on their strengths and love whether we choose to live with them or apart.
We see our children’s gifts and limitations. And we focus on their gifts.
We see our friends strong points and weaknesses. And we focus on their strong points.
We see the imperfections of the world and still see its beauty!
Moving forward in life means accepting all of life. It’s “ugliness” and its beauty. As Anne Frank said,
- “Think of all the beauty still left all around you and be happy.
The challenge of course is being able to see the beauty……are you ready to see the beauty in your parents? your children? your partner? your career?
Remember, seeing the beauty does come with acknowledging what is.