Counselling is an opportunity to sit down with an interested, objective person who is willing to give you the space you need to find your own answers. A counsellor/therapist can tell you what the theories are but you are always your own best expert on what is best for you.
What determines success in counselling?
It was a blow to my ego to discover that all my education and subsequent training has less impact than what my clients bring to their therapy. The techniques and tools used in therapy only account for 15% of our ability to meet your goals.
Research shows that 40% of what you bring to the therapeutic relationship will determine how successful your therapy will be. My responsibility may be to help you identify your strengths, resources, supports and/or help you build them. Another 15% of your success is determined by your own hopes and expectations. How determined are you to find the answers you seek?
“Counselling is always about changing oneself and/or accepting oneself. It is never about changing the other person, and yet it can be about accepting others as they are without necessarily accepting their behaviour.”
The second biggest predictor of your potential success is the therapist/client relationship (30%). That is why it is important to ensure that there is a connection between us. With a connection, you will feel safe and motivated to meet your goals.
We cannot change what has happened to us. But, we can view those issues from a wider lens and find peace.
Are you ready to envision yourself as strong, healthy and in charge of your attitude towards life?
To get a sense of who I am and what I offer, please continue to checkout this website. Check out the meditations, the blogs, the workshops and if you resonate with what I offer, call me and I am happy to answer any other questions that you may have.
I can offer:
- EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization
- SE – Somatic Experiencing
- For Multi-Generational Trauma
- SE – Somatic Experiencing
- Family Constellations
- EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
For Challenges or Conflict in the Workplace
- Mediation/Conflict Resolution
- Organizational Constellations
Yes, it is a mouthful and yet it is a rather simple and highly effective process of dealing with the residual effects of traumatic events in one’s life.
While most people report feeling some relief in one session, others may need two or three sessions on the same issue. Still others may need more. The goal is always to accept what happened and turn it into a strength rather than a weakness.
EMDR uses bilateral stimulation of the brain to release emotional experiences that are “trapped” in the nervous system. As the stressful images and feelings are remembered the brain reprocesses them by the use of the eye movement patterns, sound or tactile stimulation. The result may be a faded memory, a new perception and/or a peaceful state.
This process has been used for releasing the trapped emotions as the result of rape, crime, accidents, natural disasters, war, abuse, etc. It allows you to experience the depth of your own healing power.
EMDR allows you to resolve your anxiety with or without the therapist knowing the issue. Albeit it would be wiser to work with someone you trust with the information.
EMDR allows you to make connections about a situation that may have been plaguing you for awhile. For example: a man, who had been angry with his father since childhood because he had raised his hand to him, 25 years later was still angry. In one session, he was able to finally release that anger and come to an understanding.
EMDR can eliminate or minimize today’s triggers. For instance, a woman felt she was being bullied at work. When we explored it, she realized it brought back memories of the powerlessness she felt when compelled to have an abortion in her teens. EMDR brought her some peace around that particular time period in her life. Thus it helped her feel empowered with her work situation as she was no longer being triggered by the earlier event. She found her confidence again.
This is an evidence-based psychotherapy approved as a best practice by international health and government regulatory bodies throughout the world. EMDR effectively and efficiently eliminates the symptoms of stress and trauma:
- The American Psychiatric Association
- The US Department of Defence/Veterans Affairs
- The International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies
Can everyone be hypnotized?”
No, not everyone can be hypnotized. Whether or not you can be hypnotized is dependent on a number of factors; the first being that you trust the person with whom you are working. The second is that you trust yourself enough to allow yourself to go into an altered state of consciousness.
Who can be hypnotized?
Approximately 95% of people can be hypnotized. Mainly those of average to above average intelligence and able to quiet their mind enough to allow themselves to move into an altered state of consciousness can be hypnotised.
For what type of issues is hypnosis effective?
It is most useful for dealing with phobias, i.e. public speaking, spiders, elevators, butterflies, flying, etc.
It can also be effective for dealing with insomnia, stress, relaxation, TMJ, sports performance, and pain management. It has even been used to help the placenta to detach and allow for a normal birth.
Do you use hypnosis for past life regression?
Yes, and also age regression. Yes, you can go back to your mother’s womb and yes, you can go back to recapture early lost memories.
Visit How Stuff Works – Hypnosis for more insight into hypnosis.
You likely do have many questions. I am very happy to discuss where and how hypnosis would be helpful for you.
“Trauma means unintegrated resource.”
SE – Somatic Experiencing
Where is trauma? In the mind or the body?
The EMDR approach to trauma focuses on the mind and touches the body. The Somatic Experiencing approach focuses on the physiology of the emotions and trauma and trusts the body to self-regulate while in relationship with another compassionate being.
While EMDR begins with the most poignant moment of the memory, Somatic Experiencing begins with the safest and least stressed moment of the memory, event or pain in the body. Both build resources to build resilience while journeying towards self-regulation of the nervous system.
Watch this video to learn more from Peter Levine who developed Somatic Experiencing. He tells us that trauma is energy trapped in the body as a result of a movement in the body that was not able to complete.
How does Somatic Experiencing Work?
Peter Levine in his book Waking the Tiger states, “Trauma puts the primitive brain into a state of constant activation. The results are impulsive, automatic reactions, which alternate between frenzy, withdrawals, and immobility / paralysis.” Somatic Experiencing encourages the collaboration of body and mind to invite the felt sense of the body to guide the participant to the movement or movements that allow the pent up energy /tension to release.
What does a Somatic Experiencing session look like? feel like?
On average sessions run from 60 to 90 minutes. We begin each session by orienting oneself to the surroundings. This is a way of grounding yourself otherwise also known as feeling as secure, stable, and present in your body as you can. The more secure and stable you feel, the more comfortable you will feel in exploring your physical sensations, emotions, impulses, images, etc.
There is an invitation to notice each sensation as it arises to avoid going into the memory. This will help to keep the memories at a distance and avoid overwhelm. The process allows the stuck energy in the body that holds the trauma in place to be discharged. The work is gradual.
What might I notice following a Somatic Experiencing session?
Immediately following a Somatic Experiencing session you feel some release of tension. You may then notice that you are feeling tired and a need to rest or sleep. It is not unusual for this to be followed with a gradual increase of joy, an ease and an appreciation of life and what life has to offer.
What will Somatic Experiencing help me with?
insomnia, self-regulation, emotional triggers, chronic pain, compulsive behaviour, social anxiety, anger, perinatal trauma, childhood trauma, medical trauma, stress, emotional numbness, finding joy in living and more.
For more information or to book a session, contact us any time.