What a week!
I return home from a 4 day training with Judy Wilkins Smith in Orlando on the same day as the American election to the news that my sweet Benji moved on. He was only 10 months old, so full of life and love. And oh so smart and sassy. His latest discovery was to jump up and open the side door on his own. He even preferred to open his own door rather than come in an open door. Persistent and independent–he loved a challenge. He entered our lives 3 years after Buddy passed. This time with everything happening around me, I refused to sit in sorrow. Yes, Buddy made room for Benji. Now Benji asked us to dig deep and extend our broken hearts to love even more expansively.
One week later, Ivory joined our family. Although we picked the breed, she picked us. We see her and we cry and laugh together. We remember Benji and tears fill our eyes and our lips curl with his memories as we watch her repeat some of his antics or do things completely different. It may seem odd, yet with her presence, Buddy and Benji’s presence is much stronger. All three belong and so does Laddie, who also came and went too soon when I was 10.
They all belong–all four!
The same applies to the human members of our family. At last month’s constellation workshop we inadvertently explored belonging as it relates to our place between pessimism and optimism.
We quickly learned that when we do not take our true place the system is disrupted and our fellow travellers are also out of kilter. And if there is a thought of moving out of the system with the belief that the system will settle, the opposite is true. Moving out of the system disrupts it even more–in fact it is not possible. Once in the system, you belong. What you do need to do is find your place.
November 2016 has been a marker for a shift in our human systems. Of course this will impact change in our plant, animal and mineral systems as well. These changes all serve a bigger system. To find our place and the movement that is most beneficial, it would be wise that rather than act or speak too quickly that we sit in stillness and see what wants to emerge. Remember in this universe, we need to make room for darkness as well as lightness. The two cannot exist without the other. Together more is possible. We are asked to love more expansively. Let us see what wants to emerge.