“I want to live wholely, lovingly, fearlessly and more…” What does that even mean?
It would mean something different for each one of us. First it would mean to live authentically. To do that I would need to know myself and live my truth not society’s truth. That would take strength, courage because it would also mean letting go of the need to comply with what others think. That may include risking exclusion and not meeting the basic need of belonging.
According to Brene Brown further markers to whole hearted living include self-compassion, a resilient spirit, rest & play, gratitude & joy, intuition & trust, calm & stillness, meaningful work, creativity, laughter, song & dance.
They all sound wonderful and yet each one involves risk and vulnerability. Yet, vulnerability implies weakness. At the same time each one increases strength.
Self-compassion includes being kind to one-self, recognizing our common humanity and mindful awareness of our thoughts. To have self-compassion means releasing perfectionism….would that mean I would let go of my need to improve myself? click here to test your self-compassion
Meaningful work gives you purpose even though it may not be seen as successful to others. When doubt sets in. we second guess ourselves..Doubt allows us to be cautious and it can also hold us back. Lately I have been inspired by the man who lives with wolves. He chose to disregard what others thought or said and simply followed his intuition and as a result the world gained.
Following your intuition and having faith is challenging because one has to totally let go of certainty. Certainty can take the pain away and it also takes the excitement away. Science evolved because there were questions and confusion, not certainty. Thus uncertainty is both a strength and a weakness. How we approach uncertainty is what makes the difference. The same is true of all the other markers. We are exploring further on April 23, 2016. To learn more….