Systemic Family Constellations therapy is based on the understanding that your inner mental state is a product of your family origins. In recent decades, therapists have moved further and further away from the classic stereotype of asking about your childhood, or your relationship with your mother. Systemic Family Constellations goes in the opposite direction: we look not just at your relationship with your parents, but with your entire family, including those who passed away before you were born.
The framework of Systemic Family Constellations
The fundamental truth upon which Systemic Family Constellations is based is that no person is born into a vacuum and no one comes into the world as a ‘blank slate’. On the contrary, you are the product of a web of emotional and spiritual relationships which you did not choose and which, for the most part, you cannot change. This is true whether the dynamics in your family were healthy and positive, or not. You cannot escape your past and trying to do so will only deepen your unhappiness.
We are all familiar with the concept of childhood trauma which results from abuse or neglect. Even more prevalent, however, is intergenerational trauma, which is passed down from generation to generation. Millions of people today feel inexplicable emotions of sadness, anxiety, or despair that they cannot trace to anything in their own life experience. It is enough to reflect only briefly on the horrors of the 20th century to appreciate just how widespread intergenerational trauma must be. Often, it is only by exploring the dynamics of the family that produced you, that you can understand the source and nature of your pain.
Systemic Family Constellations therapy gives you the ability to understand where you came from as an essential step to understanding who you are. In many cases, this therapy allows people who are estranged from their family to restart a connection and build up new bridges of love. In other cases, this is not possible, but gaining truer understanding of your origin nevertheless gives you the freedom to move on with your life. You may not be able to forgive, but you can understand.
It is impossible to describe what a typical Systemic Family Constellations session looks like, because this form of therapy is not a top-down attempt to ‘fix’ you, but a bottom-up process of drawing out what lies underneath. Systemic Family Constellations is as unique as you are.
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